You’re right, I should be more brave, just look straight into their eyes, the worst case is they trying to avoid it, but nobody really knows me here anyway, no harm can be done, if I don’t take the refuse personally.

I can understand that from their perspective, they do not know me either, it takes a while to warm up both sides. But a smile might break the ice, I’ll try to be more confident and smile more.

I’ll let you know how it goes……

玉玲

The more touristic milonga the easier to get dances, so maybe it’s easier to practice cabeceo. But I won’t recommend this because I believe cabeceo (having eye-contact with someone else) is something very natural and doesn’t need to practice.

The most important thing to do is to have confidence and let go! Don’t think about how good/bad you are as a dancer, just look straight to other people’s eyes, give a smile and let the rest happen. Some might avoid your eye-contact and some might take it positively. Don’t take any refuse personally and I’m sure you will make it easily. At the end of the day, you are not living there and nobody really knows you. Why not just give it a try?

Royce

This is a very useful posting, thank you so much for sharing.
I would like to practice it more while I’m in Buenos Aires this time.
Which milongas would you recommend for a shy foreigner to start with the Cabeceo practice?
Muchas gracias!